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Original Post by: nonic
Good day fellow travelers:
 
It breaks my heart to read through many of the posts here.  That is so because I hear the anguish and understand the pain that cessation's path requires.  For so long, as addicts, we played a game of hide and seek. When trouble came our way, when people's actions and unforeseen events sent daggers through our very souls and anger, rage and sadness cut us like a knife, we ran and hid behind that ever present thin blue veil. We metaphorically put our hands to our eyes, inhaled the vapors and swore no one could see us there.  And in many ways that was true. No one could see us there, because we internalized the pain we felt and eased its sting by bathing our wounds in a good old nicotine bath.  And we did in that way become invisible. 
 
However our invisibility also stripped us of our opportunity to confront the source of our indignation, our hurt, our sorrow our grief.  By rendering ourselves invisible, we lost a million chances to grow stronger in our own hearts. We let go our opportunity to forge a stronger bond between our internal world and the external world. We fell victim to the ageless fear of the forest.  We wrapped ourselves in the soft folds of addiction. We did not stand up for ourselves, we failed to practice gratitude for the life we have been given, we did not speak calmly to our aggressor, we did not reason with our partner, we did not address that which brought us so much pain.  And the world heard no more from us.
 
But where does the heart go when there is nowhere to hide?  The truth is that the heart needs no place to hide.  The heart (self), that which you know yourself to be requires no excuse for existing. You are the product of a gardener of vast skills.  You have a right to grow stronger, you have a right to seek the sun, to stand tall and be proud of who you are.  You are a living breathing creative being who has something to add to the cosmic conversation.  Do not silence yourself through self inflicted addiction.  When the heart has nowhere to hide it must grow stronger, it must gain the confidence that comes from accomplishing difficult tasks, it must grow in compassion because it already knows the sting of rejection.
 
Remaining addicted is tantamount to destroying the vessel (body) in an effort not to experience the soul (self).  Cessation is a chance to engage yourself, find new ways to deal with old problems.  It is a second chance.  Take hold of it today, tomorrow and on all your remaining trips around the sun. 
 
 
stay well
 
 
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Bump up for new quitters...and want-to-be quitters.
Start on the last page from the bottom up. Good reading.
Nonic has a wonderful way with words. His wisdom shines as bright as the sun.  
Stay Strong.
 
Not One Puff Ever 
 
 
 

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Wow. That brought tears to my eyes. 

Slow and steady wins the race.

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Hi Jim! Thanks so much for the bump..
 
I had forgotten about this profound writing by Nonic from two years ago..I was so touched by it then and by it again today..It was like reading for the first time...
I really needed to read and hear this today..Perfect timing..
 
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Hello Quit Buddies!
 
       I'm bumping forward another awesome post from one of my favorite quit buddies here.  I'd like to hear your thoughts on this post and I bet Nonic would too!   
 
              Jim 

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Kaiser:
 
Wow you are just tickin those days over now...Time just seems to fly by these days...Here you are just about to complete your second trip around the sun smoke free...Ain't that a kick in the head...
 
 
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anjel:
 
Well thank you very much...I tend to be a bit bombastic about this subject, but it is one for which I have great passion.  Cessation brings on many changes in us.  But for most of us it can be a difficult slog.  Thank you for joining us here.  You will find that there are many caring people around this site.  They are so because they understand that people who seek to free themselves from this addiction need a great deal of support.  I did and I found a great community here...You will too.     
 
I do hope that you are doing well and that you are proud of the 53 days that you have thus far clocked...I know it can be difficult sometimes.  Come often to this site and tell people how you are feeling and what you are discovering.  Everybody's journey is different, but there are many common themes, you will find a welcoming group here...
 
 
stay well
 
 
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Thank you for posting nonic.  Your writing is beautiful.

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Great post Nonic.  I am sure that many people including myself will find a message in here that we can keep.
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Jul 13, 2010 (05:57 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Todash
 
Oh my yes things are well in this part of the universe...The garden is working overtime and I am about to add another one...Work is work, but that's ok and I am doing well...You know how it is, everyday is a little piece of artwork...
 
 
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You are a living breathing creative being who has something to add to the cosmic conversation.


And how!  Love this.  Hope all's well in the land of nonic.
 
x T

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Brenda:
 
Thank you...Keep moving forward, your presence here helps a great many people through some difficult times...
 
 
stay well
 
 
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Dawn:
 
Be very proud of those 406 days, you did not get them by being passive about this addiction...Keep up that activity...
 
 
stay well
 
 
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Ashley:
 
Thank you...This is a very difficult addiction for people to overcome, simply because it weaves  itself so deeply into the personality...We all just need to to make ourselves some new clothes...
 
 
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Rose:
 
Just keep moving forward through this...You will eventually look back and wonder why you ever smoked at all...You will know, of course, and that will be the reason (s) that you never smoke again...
 
 
stay well
 
 
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