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Timbo637
Jun 15, 2018 (12:52 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Bump up.
 Stay strong!
 
Not One Puff Ever
 

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Feb 24, 2011 (09:57 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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I'm only on my second day but this post already helped, hahaha. It helps me keep the right mindset.
 
I struggle because I've tried to quit so many times before, and I've told my family, friends and coworkers so many times before, that I feel the need to tone down how I feel. I feel like I have to say things like, "Well, maybe this time, hahaha!" because if I say things like, "This time I'm doing it!", everyone will roll their eyes and I won't get the kind of support I will if I'm a little timid and submissive about it. 
 
But, whatever. ;) I'm staying strong in my mind and I've got a small, core group of people who want me to be successful so badly they support me like every time is my first try. 

I've had enough. I am an ex-smoker.

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Shevie
Feb 24, 2011 (01:40 AM) Reply | Quote 


        
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What I found helped me after the "active" part of the quit was behind me and the rare and unexpected urge would hit me was to simply allow it to be there.  Don't fight it, don't focus on it, don't give it any power.  Simply recognize its existence, neither good nor bad, and allow it to be there without any effect upon you.  It will pass soon.

It's all healing.

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Lainey
Feb 23, 2011 (05:37 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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memie
May 06, 2010 (10:31 PM) Reply | Quote 


      
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Lainey this is a great post,  a few months ago I was reading this post and I tough some day I will need to come back and read this post.   Well the time has come for me to read this again because I've been under more stress in the last two weeks. My Mom is in a nursing home and has Alzheimer's disease  she has been in the home for three years and last week she started getting mini strokes and she is deteriorating real fast. I know it's time for her to go, she had a good life  good times and very rough times also,  she will be 90 on May 25 th.   
I have three older  siblings that live out of town so I'm  the one taking care of my Mom.  My older sister and I haven't been talking much in the last couple of years.  Last week she called and we got into an arguement ,  anyway it's lot of stress lately so I went looking for Lainey's post.  
 
So I need to be strong and not smoke .........cause the cravings are always worse under stress
 
Thank you Lainey for the great post..
 
Memie 

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sheila
Nov 13, 2009 (08:26 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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I'm just going through a "test you to the max family soap opera" myself.
 
I walked 10 miles after leaving my sisters - walking it off - so angry/upset with her.
 
But I didn't smoke. but there was a whole lot of self talk going on.  I made it - I am so mad at her I will not permit the quit to be lost due to that slime twin of mine.
 
Yeah me!


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My Quit Date: 1/24/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 293
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 3,516
Amount Saved: $747.15
Life Gained:
Days: 38 Hrs: 12 Mins: 50 Seconds: 18

I Fear No Fish

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Nov 02, 2009 (11:07 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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I have to sit and deep breath to get myself in the right state of mind.  Then I continually remind myself how proud I am to be a non smoker, that I don't have to worry about fitting a cigarette into my life.  I remind myself how incredibly stressful that was.  Being completely stressed out and then not being able to go for a smoke on top of it?  That was a double whammy!!  I breath in long and slow, and remember that I love who I am now not smoking and I don't want to give that up...EVER!!  Great thread Lainy...and a very good reminder.
 
Kelly

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My Quit Date: 12/7/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 696
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 20,880
Amount Saved: $2,610.00
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Days: 57 Hrs: 22 Mins: 18 Seconds: 39

One moment at a time.

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Tom
Nov 01, 2009 (05:25 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Great post Lainey.  There's a lot of insight in your message and I think anyone who reads it will benefit from it.  For me it took me through the many thought strings that I sometimes wrestle with.  That is to say, the chain of thoughts and notions that take me to having to decide all over again if quitting was still the right decision, making me question if it still make sense in my life.  The funny thing about this, that I don't appreciate until afterwards, is sense has little to do with questioning this decision.  It's nonsense pure and simple.  It's the addict talking and nothing more.

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 3/15/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 962
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 19,240
Amount Saved: $7,022.60
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Days: 156 Hrs: 23 Mins: 0 Seconds: 36

Smooth sailing!

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Brenda
Oct 11, 2009 (09:44 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Impalamania, I've also found that quitting smoking leads me toward healthier behavior and thinking , period.
My Milage:

My Quit Date: 5/1/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 163
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 4,564
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Days: 17 Hrs: 21 Mins: 8 Seconds: 6

Been There. Done That.

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Impalamania
Oct 11, 2009 (09:45 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Good topic, Lainey!  While I don't consider myself seasoned, the greatest help for me, beyond posting and reading on this site, has been renewed focus on ME. 
 
I have immersed myself into self-help books and audios, all relating to taking control of MY life in many areas  Such authors as Brian Tracy, Dave Ramsey and Jack Canfield have been very inspiring over the past 9-months. 
 
I am learning to think, speak and BE POSITIVE about me.  The below passage by Jack Canfield sums it up best for me:
 
I am worthy of love, joy and success.
I am smart and make wise choices
I am loveable and capable.
I can create anything I want.
I am able to solve any problem that comes my way.
I can handle anything that life hands me.
I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to do.
I am attracting all the right people into my life

Believing in Yourself is an Attitude
Believing in yourself is a choice. It’s an attitude you develop over time. It’s now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. It might help to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.

You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to – anything at all – because, in fact, you can!

Taking it One Day at a Time and Keeping the Quit,
 
Dave


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My Quit Date: 1/19/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 265
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 7,950
Amount Saved: $2,086.88
Life Gained:
Days: 43 Hrs: 5 Mins: 49 Seconds: 35

Choose Life...Better Benefits

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Healthy1
Oct 11, 2009 (12:55 AM) Reply | Quote 


       
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thank you for your very helpful post. I will read this one again should I find myself in an emotional state of any kind. :)

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My Quit Date: 9/29/2009
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Oct 02, 2009 (12:51 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Good post Lainy, I have had a lot going on in my life, but I am yet to be tested and that scares me a little. Its something I need to think about, because when things go real bad I tend to get self destructive, and what better form of self destruction than smoking. I think my biggest fear is something going south in my relationship, that would be the worst case senerio for me, that would be the ultimate challenge. Well, back to packing up...bllaaahhhhhhh..I'm beat.
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Oct 02, 2009 (12:24 PM) Reply | Quote 


       
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Great post Lainey!
 
I would love to hear members reponses,
 


Ashley, Health Educator

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Lainey
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It has happened to so many of us, maybe even all of us at one time or another. We quit smoking and we are starting to go
along nicely when some BIG emotional, stressful, heart ripping, tearful, anxious moment sends us running to the store to buy cigarettes. It feels like forever, nothing will work but a cigarette, right? We smoke one and suddenly a day or two later, we are right back to a pack a day, right back to square one. Then comes the anger, the shame, the anger,  the regret, all of the "Why" emotions. 'Why did I give in?' "Why was I so stupid?" "Why, why why???"
We gave in because cigarettes were always our coping tool. They always drowned the emotions for us, so we didn't have to feel the pain or stress or anger or emotion of the day. We gave in because we are addicted. We gave in because we weren't prepared.
So how can we get through  these really stressful, trying times without running to the store and giving in our old habits? How do we make the "I want to quit" part of our brain yell louder than the 'I need a smoke" part? How do we prepare?
This is where you need your arsenal of quit tools, such as gum,  candy, cold water, straws, go for a walk, come here and post,(and wait for five responses)  read an inspiring post that you love, have a shower or bath,  yell, scream,  do the deep breathing, cry your eyes out, write out your feelings,  do whatever it takes to get through those few minutes or hours without smoking.
We have to tell ourselves that Smoking is NOT an option. HALT! NOPE! 
When you do that, you turn your focus, to what IS an option??? If I cannot smoke, what else can I do to keep me busy and help me get through this? What else can I do to prevent myself from falling in to the trap again? What will it take? What works for me?
For me, it was sucking on a straw (like a cigarette) and telling myself that Smoking is Not an option, and I don't want to go back there ever again, I am an addict and I can never smoke again,  letting the tears come, and go. It worked!
Everyone has their own unique bag of tricks for this, and it is part of the secret to staying quit. What will it take for you to say NOPE and mean it?
What can you put in your arsenal of quit tools so that you can make it through any stressful event, even a death in the family?
Take the time to plan ahead, because it will come and you need to be ready. It will make a big difference if you are prepared for this.
For the seasoned quitters here, what tips can you add that helped you through the toughest times?

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 3/5/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 942
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 23,550
Amount Saved: $9,938.10
Life Gained:
Days: 124 Hrs: 16 Mins: 33 Seconds: 46

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